The problem with acceptance in meditation is most people don’t understand what they are suppose to be accepting. When I was taking Mystical classes in college, the topic of acceptance would continue to come up. Most of the students felt that being a meditation practitioner meant that you meditate on things, accept them and never do anything to change situations.
The acceptance of a person, problem or situation doesn’t mean you can’t actively try to affect change in your life. Your aim in meditation is to accept your current state. Think of it this way you have to accept that a situation has occurred before you can fix it. You also have to accept the situation for what it really is ( not the story you have created) before you know what the proper course of action is. So acceptance doesn’t mean lack of action.
It is cutting away denial so you can make the right action. Of course there will be times ( a lot of them) when you will accept that there is nothing you can do. Then you can take steps towards letting go.
A tricky but valuable form of acceptance is tolerating other people. In order to do this you must accept that you can’t change people at all. No matter how hard you try. When you get to that understanding you have the choice of whether or not a person should be in your life. You can also chose to change your own actions to improve relationships.
Even tricker is accepting yourself at this moment. This step involves acknowledging exactly where you are in your life and being ok with that. Being able to love yourself completely without nagging yourself about what you should be doing or have by now. Can you say to yourself, ” This is my life. This moment is my life and I accept it exactly how it is?”